I’m a Pro and Lifestyle Domme, Hedonist, Kinkster, Adventurer, and Sadist based in Toronto, Canada. I've been crafting bizarre kinky scenes since 2005, with many eras of gained skills + cravings bringing me to the now, with a gorgeous space in west Toronto for deep dives.

I've been known for many things over the years: colour + silliness, scary + strong, intense kinky stunts, beatdowns + breathplay, botanicals + mean plants, percussive corporal dreamsttates, coaxing nervous holes to to life and for a while, some of the most unhinged (but real) short-term offers on BAckpages/ Cr@igslist (they were deliciously filthy times).

I think it's our right and responsibility to explore our bodies and what they can do, to willingly submit to controlled chaos, to try all the things and never stop experimenting, finding new delights, heights, overwhelm, delayed gratification and playing in general. Harm reduction, risk-awareness, trust building before CNC/ non-con, informed consent are all my jam: you will occasionally see me in very messy / extreme content and that doesn't happen without established trust and experience. I love watching people surrender and melt into to the (sensory) experience I've crafted/ co-curated, and finding new 'grounding experiences' for pain sluts, new 'gasms for super sluts and new sensations for experience collectors of all kinds.

I do love stunts and heavy play but absolutely craft softer sensory experiences for folks for whom compression or sensory dep are all they need, like fluffy blanket mummification. I ramp up play based on our experience together, and craft scenes with hard boundaries in mind and encourage safe word use. Once base trust is in the bag, it's time to fly: my perverted creativity is limitless, my energy to toy with and push willing bodies as Goddess, FemmeDaddy, Doctor, or any number of scenarios from scary to ridiculous - did you know laughter helps you take more?

When I started as a Pro, I was frustrated that I didn't see any content with colourful costumes or images of Dommes smiling tbh (this was when our websites had 4 photos, a list of skills and a phone number). I was a bubbly young sadist/hedonist at the time who loved to laugh but also loved to dish out a good beatdown with my hands and minimal tools. I really do play a LOT with my hands: I was gifted "very gay" dexterous hands that allow me to feel more than others when they are inside people (fisting, milking etc) which have been a voyeurs delight at sex parties over many years.

I've played through many waves of censorship, leaving long-lasting sites + blogs behind and putting more and more behind paywalls, whereas in the past you would have seen generous scoops of images of my work/ art, I've had to take a lot down from apps and leave thing behind. If you are uncertain as to whether or not a profile using my photos is me, ignore the profile and write me through my site here instead. I am very direct about negotiating rates and am not on any dating apps. The vanillification of the internet goes against the filth, hedonism, dark rites + bits of human nature that I love playing with, it's disheartening to have to start from scratch as often as SWs do, and have our scammers be SO disappointingly boring and uncreative lol.

Like many Goddesses, I can appear in many forms, and feed in many ways :

Strict Teacher/ Boss, Clinical Nurse, Bondage Artiste + Safety Buddy, Sensory Puppeteer, Pig Wrangler, Kitty/ Puppy Trainer, Sadistic Trickster, Forceful Beast/ Vampire, Latex Bombshell, Fantasy Creature, Tear or Fear Sweat Harvester, Cry Lap, Mean Girl, Fucksling Fisting Daddy and many more.

My preferred honorific is Contessa, you may also lead with Goddess or Sir when reaching out if they vibe more with your style of submission or experience collecting. Looking forward to learning more about you,

~Aspasia

aka. The Contessa