Serving Me

Are you seeking something deeper, once you find the right match? Are you wondering what might be involved in paying a little extra attention to My needs/ desires/ interests with kinky shenanigans? I put together a little basic info for folks who could really benefit from knowing where my lines are when it comes to things being hot vs. unhinged- it really does vary for a lot of Dominatrixes, but here are mine.

  • LifeStyle vs Pro Shapes

  • Gifts, Findom + Tasks

  • Submission, Who I play Well With, & Ideal Playtime

  • Fantasy Labour

Lifestyle vs Pro Shapes

A Pro Session - it's me taking your requests and boundaries and creating a moment or stunt or extended shenanigan to reach you in some way with those details. I create the vessel, create the chaos, bring you back down and to mostly functioning, and out the door and back to your life. Then you don't have to think about me til your next craving or booking.

From there, some sessions deepen in servitude, where the person wants to attune more to my deeper desires, spoil me, support my kink + non kink side quests or classes- finding a way to do a little personalized more, either having played with me and grateful for the experience, or as thank you for things you've seen of me online over the years etc.

Usually that means that in-person sessions get a little longer, or more regular, maybe with an adventure or snack at the end. Along with this, you show respect for, and pick up a little more labour in the creating of O/our experiences (places, tools, cleaning). You consider that I also need aftercare, you consider the labour I do before and during our play, and always call me by the correct title (or whatever I’ve asked you to go with).

Online, a longer chat ,or being open to a different flow, feedback/ suggestions, regular texting or chats through a variety of kinky things vs. your exact desires (or maybe we have a LOT of overlap, we'll see). For some people, it's setting aside a monthly amount for supporting my sidequests/ other interests, ex. $ 25-100 depending on your budget, which is common for folks who just can't make the time to play. Some folks like taking that support into the realm of Findom or shapes or direct sponsorship and I have room for that as well.

If we play in-person and you are open to photography (when I remember to take images), contributing to getting to stunt locations, spotting, cleaning etc: those things are all helpful for me. I love making art with bodies- I'm sure that's obvious, and it's rare to find folks who are able to sign release forms, and more complex with A-eye scouring our faces and bodies all over the internet.

“Lifestyle Stuff": If I choose to reward you with X-Y-Z because you did something for me that I wanted, it’s a gift: it can’t be expected. There isn’t a "lifestyle session" option here where we trade non-money something for an experience focussed on your pleasure. The options and offers would be more along the lines of ‘help me install this thing’, run this errand, pulling you into a photo short, testing a stunt with you, honing skills with your body like play piercing, predicament bondage or e-stim, bandaging, plaster and things where the time spent would include dipping in and out of sensations and asking you questions. I'm saying this to dial back the horny fantasy that somehow taking out my trash equates to hours being drained by my milker kit- again I really dislike those things anything that centres cis-mens pleasure/ comfort for nothing- that's not very unique imo.

Gifts, Findom + Tasks

I have a page with a little wishlist of items I'd love for folks to sponsor or bring to me, many are one-of-a-kind items. I also list tasks that take labour off my plate, especially the kinds of labour I dislike the most (tracking parcels, waiting for phone calls, tracking down something small and specific). Service is taking things off my plate, listening to my desires and believing them instead of pushing for only your own.

I understand the want to bring or purchase things for me that you want me to have, things you would feel better giving. In a Pro relationship I'll often tell you to take these things back, or accept these things to make you feel better and give them away after you leave. Don't waste money on something that you want me to have- when folks reach out to me to sponsor X or Y that I don't want, or drop off some things they just happened to have, it doesn't show a lot of consideration of me actually. I have a great list of awesome things including practical and sexy gifts that I would LOVE, and it's surprising how many folks will look at my list and ask if they can get me something else anyway.

With service, "subtasks" are things meant to serve and amuse me, not to serve and amuse your horniness. You will not see me listing JOI on my personal task list. That's why I laugh a lot on this end when folks say they want to serve me but skip all of the service opportunities all over my website, skip all the details that direct you to the full spectrum of my being instead of just the kink/sex Goddess, which I won't argue.

Submission

What is the submission that I enjoy, that builds something meaningful and interesting?

Let’s start with what it isn’t:

  • Not that you can physically survive a particular X physical experience

  • Not that you are willing to 'do whatever' or 'let me do anything' or have ‘zero boundaries’

  • Not that I own you for life, control your every move, or force you to do things you hate

  • Not fighting you for control on everything like it somehow hurts you to allow or experience anything different

  • Not adding heaps of labour to my plate, or being accessible to anyone but myself 24/7: there’s a lot in my life already to add

  • Not weird misogynistic sexual labour fantasies or fantasy labour

The submission I craft and enjoy is the act of, being present in whatever is happening. Feeling your body, taking the ride and allowing it to wash over you in the ways that it might. Those things are different for everyone. Getting to that place takes time and trust and some people may experience only moments of it, minutes of it, or a lucky few are in there for the entirety of a playtime after the first check-in. It depends on the person on the day and how open and curious they are. If you have very specific goals about what something should feel like or do to you, that can very often block the unique ways you can feel or experience something that is different from anyone else. It means nothing to me if you dissociate during something just to get through it- if you are struggling to get through, why offer that direction when there are so many others available?

What do I find Hot?

  • Considerate behaviour + reverence for playspaces + nature where we get weird

  • Curiosity + communication

  • Taking things off my plate

  • Making art

  • Boundaries

  • Support for the range of my interests

  • Investments in expanding gear we use together

  • Unique spaces for photography + stunts

  • Nature

  • Discomfort

  • Assgasms

  • Power play

  • Rejecting the compulsory

  • Mutual aid

  • Reading

  • Snacks ( I love a wide variety of foods)

Who I play well with:

  • Sensation Sluts + the Sensory Curious

  • Giant Sluts :)

  • Femdom Subs

  • Ace/ Grey/ Demi Folks

  • Experience Collectors/ Adrenal Surfers/ Pain Sluts

  • Queers of all kinds

  • Pets/ Pups (Human)

Ideal Playtime:

  • A number of my skills and tools

  • Something cheeky or weird

  • Decadence + something Pretty

  • Hedonism + something Filthy

  • Good Sound, Nice Scents, Good Lighting

  • Discomfort, Overwhelm, Experimentation

In town and when I travel, I like a variety of playspaces- not that I don’t have several usual spots that I love + use regularly but I’ve always been into unique places, plants, structures + views with my shenanigans. Saunas, tiny homes, cliffs, trees, tree forts, river beaches (and a unique snack at the end) — it takes trust and co-operation to pull some of those things off let alone capture them, but I do love having these things in my life regularly. I love extended sessions where we get a crack at more than one rig in a playtime, giving us more opportunities for flow, for states of submission + overwhelm, for states of decadence and relaxation, and more. My kinky hankerings come and go, not in an all-or-nothing way, but in waves of interest and growth. I generally post about the things that I ‘m experimenting with so folks who I’m not seeing regularly have opportunities to hop into unique or rare situations - folks I see regularly know already because I offer things to them in-person first.

Fantasy Labour

Fantasy labour is the belief that exactly what you want to do for me is valuable to me, that it's more valuable than the things I'm asking for on my list. It involves the belief that somehow I should allow you into my private life with zero references or built trust, usually accompanied by zero tribute or tips, zero playtime. I will never go from zero to servitude with anyone. Servitude + helping probably don't look the way you think they do in your mind, especially if you have a set structure in your fantasy that involves me witnessing and watching everything you do. Folks who serve me ask questions, learn, consider me and work on/ successfully being able to do things to help me regularly.

If you want to pay tribute to talk about this kind of fantasy, or to play through the fantasy that I own you in a shape that serves more of your fantasies, that's one thing- though it's not at all arousing or interesting to me to suddenly have to watch out for a person's well being entirely because they refuse to live wholly, fully, and stand for something other than being horny or submissive. There are actually amazing ways to stand for Femdom in your day to day life and put your privilege where it should go without asking for more labour from women. Heaps of ways, and it doesn't involve being thanked or touched.

This labour sometimes comes attached to the disgusting belief that somehow straight sex is servitude, that 'queening' or any of these vanilla things are somehow outside my reach, is unhinged. I do not offer this kind of relationship at all- my lust is for submission as I define it, as I feed on it, and that involves discomfort, overwhelm, denial and more. If you somehow believe that 'sexual servitude' is a 'chore' that one does for women, you need to go to 'horny jail'. If you approach asking me to make SW employment for you, manage you and take the money you make without you doing anything but ‘being used sexually’- it reads as asking me for employment with no resume and no hiring sign. I’ve never managed another worker and don’t plan on it.

Approaching me with pitches such as the above read as unhinged, ungrounded and unattractive to me.